Saturday, September 13, 2003

Last one for a while

I'm packed, and it's before midnight! This is a new record for me.

I may have left out stuff, but on the whole, it took less time and was less stressful than I thought. I have fewer clothes than I thought. The anchovy/seaweed package is bigger than I thought (mother- and aunt-requested item). Half of the suitcase is stuff for other people.

Considering that when I get back, a year will have passed since I moved to Korea, I thought of writing some sort of navel-gazing entry today. The actual anniversary of my arrival here will be spent on an airplane this year too -- but from Seattle to Atlanta.

In fact, earlier today, I did start writing something about the impossibility of truly conveying an experience to someone else and how we try anyway because of the importance of finding and maintaining connections with people blah blah blah. I deleted it. Blather and boring to boot.

And just now, I wrote a paragraph about being tired today for various reasons, and deleted that as well. Bo-ring!

I think I'll cut my losses and sign off, with apologies for the unsatisfactory nature of this entry. Some days it flows, and some days it clogs. But I would like to share something I saw today. I was wiped out, you see, both physically and emotionally, and decided to go for a run in the hopes of shifting my mood. I took the route along the Han River, which is swollen and turbulent with the rainfall from the recent typhoon. Under one of the bridges, because of some man-made structure, the water poured over a short curve like a waterfall, creating a roiling, surging back current. I stopped by the water and watched the furiously bubbling brown water. "That looks like something," I thought to myself, and the answer floated up: root beer.

After a minute or two of watching the carbonated swirling and boiling, I noticed something in the water. A ball. An indigo blue plastic ball with white and yellow circles, somewhere between a basketball and a softball in size. A child's plaything. After watching this too for a minute, I noticed that it kept disappearing and then appearing again. It would touch the smooth surface of the stubby waterfall and get sucked under the water, popping up again a few feet away, only to drift closer and closer to the waterfall, pushed by the back current, to get sucked under again.

The ball was helpless, caught in a cycle that would not end until it deflated, or until the current calmed. None of the people standing on the riverbank could reach that ball, nor change its course. It was doomed to repeat the plunge under water over and over, unable to resist the power of the waterfall.

But it did keep reappearing.

Maybe that ball is still disappearing and reappearing, in the dark, under the bridge connecting the northern part of Seoul to the southern part. Maybe it has popped and deflated and is now lying on the bottom of the river. Or maybe it has broken free.
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That's all for now, folks. I'll be in the States for the next month, bouncing around from San Fran to DC to NYC to Seattle to Atlanta to SF again, before heading back to Seoul on Oct. 14. I'll post again in mid-October. Til then, fight the power, use the Force, and be free.

Friday, September 12, 2003

The third day of the five-day holiday is done, and if I never had to go back to the office again, I really think I'd be okay with it.

Oh, wait, after Monday, I am never going back to that office. Well, er... good.

Which isn't to say that I didn't do work today. I got the revisions back from the kid who's applying to Columbia, and spent an hour or so trying to figure out a way to let him keep the Hitler references without making him sound freaky. I gave up in the end, and decided to just tell him to nix all the Hitler fascination stuff. Man, the power! Not only do teachers get respect up the wazoo here, anyone who went to an Ivy League school gets about double the standard amount, such that when I said, "Yes, that's right, I graduated from Yale," in response to the kid's younger sister's query, she looked at me with awe. Awe! I don't think anyone's ever looked at me with such unmitigated admiration before -- and I didn't like it. I told them, "Thousands of people have gone to Yale, you know. There's a lot of us out there." The kid replied, "Yeah, but think of the millions of people who haven't gone to Yale!"

It works to my advantage, obviously, but in general, I think it's a failing of the Confucian value system that scholars are considered higher than any other profession else. Artists, for example, fall pretty low on the respect scale.

In any case, for six hours of work I got paid the equivalent of 24 hours at my soon-to-be-gone parttime job. Nice work if you can get it...

Shocking, however, was the fact that the kid has no less than FOUR tutors: writing (me), chemistry, French, and math. I can't even conceive of how much money is going into this kid's extra schooling.
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Today was my dad's birthday, according to the lunar calendar, so my aunt and a cousin (son of a different aunt) came over, joining my grandmother, who arrived yesterday and cleaned the entire apartment and cooked up a storm. The place gleams! It's so nice to have everything shine! Typhoon Mae-mi is blowing over the southern regions tonight (just rain and some wind in Seoul), and the apartment feels cozy and snug. Man, I want a housewife when I grow up!

I've noticed that I'm much less annoyed at my grandmother than I used to be six months ago (I really couldn't stand being around her then). I also recently had dinner with my dad's friend, whom I had met shortly after I'd gotten here last year, and whom I thought was loud, crass and annoying then. Strangely enough, I didn't mind him at all this time. A combination of improved language comprehension and improved culture comprehension, I'd say. Or maybe I've just gotten more mellow?

Nah.
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There's been some coverage of 9/11 here, but for the most part, the Chusok traffic and the typhoon have dominated the news. So I really nearly forgot about it. Don't worry, I'm not going to write anything about it. But if you're in the mood for some more tortured memories, here's what I wrote about that day two years ago. It's on RosaG's site, zelaznog.com, which you should check out anyway, because she writes a mean (if sporadic) gardening journal and runs a jumper business with her husband. Also, she was my very first web publisher and cheerleader, and for that I'm forever grateful. Here's the URL: http://www.zelaznog.com/hk/2001sep12wartorn.html.

Okay, I can't resist writing just one thing that's sort of 9/11-related, and that would be, simply: You have a special place in my heart, and I am glad glad glad to have you in my life. Thank god we're all alive and well today.

Thursday, September 11, 2003

Maintenance: I realize that you can only scroll down a fifth of the page or so, but I don't know what the problem is. Working on it. Sorry for the inconvenience.
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Last night I had itchy remote control syndrome, and switched back and forth between a Korean film on TV called My Wife is a Gangster (more literal translation: Organized Crime Spouse) and a Korean-dubbed Lord of the Rings. (The latter suffered greatly from the dubbing, by the way.)

Lord of the Rings reminded me afresh of an interesting linguistic characteristic of Korean -- the expression of "yes" and "no." Several weeks ago, I waxed rhapsodic about the Yoko Ono exhibit showing here, especially the piece where you could climb a ladder, take hold of a magnifying glass attached on a string to the ceiling, and decipher the small word etched on a square piece of glass also hung from the ceiling. The word was "YES," and the piece moved me with its quietly confident affirmation. We search the sky for meaning, raising our faces to the heavens to cry out, "Are you there? Is there a point?" and Ono's piece assures us, "Yes. I am. There is."

I went to see this exhibit with a Korean friend, and explained, excitedly, why I loved this piece. She absorbed my explanation, paused thoughtfully, and commented, "You know, the word 'yes' in Korean doesn't really carry that kind of affirmation. It's more an expression of acknowledgement and obedience." So what expression would a Korean have used in the artwork? We wondered about that for a minute and came up with goeh reh, which means approximately, "That's right."

LotR reminded me of this because of the Korean translation of "no." When Gandalf, just having defeated Balrog, falls into the depths of the mines of Moria, Elijah Wood screams "Noooo!" before being carried away by Sean Bean (hobbits put up with a lot of picking up and carrying around in the movie -- the curse of being short and cute). In Korean, if you're asked a question to which the answer is no, you say, ah-nee yo. But this is used pretty much exclusively as a response to a query. The equivalent to Frodo's anguished "no" in Korean is ahn dwei, which translates literally to "no do," or more poetically, "It cannot be."
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Today I woke up early (6 am), despite having been up til 1 am watching the gangster wife kick ass and Viggo Mortensen shed manly tears over Sean Bean's death, in order to go to temple and pay respects to my paternal grandfather. It was cool and slightly humid, and the temple doors were open, letting in a bit of a breeze just where I was sitting. My dad and I had just done the bowing and offering of water, and were sitting cross-legged on red square cushions, listening to the monk chanting and ringing a bell. I was on the verge of complaining that I was cold, when I decided to just deal -- after all, we were headed out shortly, and it really wasn't all that cold. Accept the cold and just chill, I told myself, and I felt a sudden calm wash over me.

A couple month ago, at my uncle's funeral, my cousin Jung-eun and I talked about going to church and temple. Both of us had been to church with my oldest uncle, who became Christian because of his wife's influence, and whose kids are married to a pastor-in-training and about to enter a seminary, respectively. "But you know," my cousin said, "I always feel comfortable and a sense of peace in a temple, and I never felt that at church." I thought of that again this morning, when I sat in the cool breeze and accepted that I was cold and felt... I don't know. Refreshed. Who knows, maybe it was my grandfather, sending me a little peace from beyond.

Wednesday, September 10, 2003

It's the day before Chusok, and the streets of Seoul are empty, the freeway is a parking lot, the TV show hosts and guests are dressed in hanbok (traditional Korean dress), and I'm beat. After meeting with the high school kid whose essays I'm editing, I went to Insadong, the old part of town, and bought a bunch of stuff to take back with me to the States. Except for four more items, I'm now done with the shopping part of the preparation. On Saturday I need to go cut my hair, but other than that, I'm feeling in fairly good shape.

God, I really need to learn how to stress less about stupid details.

Like I said, the TV show hosts and guests are dressed in traditional clothes today, and I got a kick out of imagining, say, the women on The View dressed in pilgrim outfits. Chusok and New Year's are the biggest holidays of the year, but Chusok is when everyone goes to their hometowns, creating gridlock like you wouldn't believe and tripling the time it takes to get anywhere. A large percentage of people living in Seoul claim other towns as home, so the exodus is awesome. It reminds me of DC on the Fourth, but on a bigger scale.

In recent years, there has been some attention paid to "housewife stress" from Chusok. Because family members gather together, there's a lot of pressure involved in preparing all the traditional foods. I am reminded that this is still an extremely conservative society, and that in the vast majority of couples, it is still considered the woman's job to cook and clean, even if she is holding down a fulltime day job. I was watching a TV game show this afternoon, and a couple in their 40s or 50s was competing. The woman, when asked if her husband helped out in the house, joked, "He has the eating part down pat." The host then commented, "Well, men of your age were actually told to stay out of the kitchen, isn't that right?" And the husband nodded. This would be the reason why everyone is so astonished when I tell them that my dad actually prepares all the food, though I usually add that he's sort of forced to, since I don't. Come to think of it, I get that question regularly from Koreans, which is comment-worthy in itself. Huh.

Tuesday, September 09, 2003

Another jumpy entry

Can I tell you how much I love my lip gloss? Bought it for 1,000 won (about 85 cents) at the little store at the metro station, and its pencil-thin, cherry flavor goodness rocks my world.

Feeling all kinds of stress about upcoming trip to the U.S. Not about going back or seeing people, but more about the finicky details -- coordination, transportation, how to pay for what out of which account, getting last minute things done (like a haircut, which I desperately need), finding stuff for people, figuring out what to wear at which functions, yadda yadda. Since Thursday is Chusok (Korean Thanksgiving), one of the two biggest holidays in Korea, everything tends to shut down, and I'm not certain what stores are going to be open when, which irritates my ulcer further. Anyhoo.

Korean grapes and pears are the best in the world. I could live on them.

A couple weeks ago, when I told my dad about quitting my job, he met someone who tutors high school kids in chemistry, and that someone has now referred two kids to me who need help with their college application essays. I meet with the second kid tomorrow, after I read his essays for Columbia (he wrote two and needs to pick one). Upon a preliminary glance through the essays, though, I think I might have some trouble with this one.

The first kid's essay was a joy to edit -- a succinct episode, fraught with meaning, that we buffed up with American-style (or maybe just hk-style) simplicity and heart. The Columbia kid wrote about how he used to be fascinated with Hitler in one of his essays, and working with disabled people in his second. Oh dear.

I would be tempted to go with the Hitler essay, as it's an attention-grabbing subject, but it's also a subject best left to the best of writers, with the most fine-tuned sensibilities. Then again, the "epiphany via community service" has got to be one of the most overdone topics in the history of the high-pressure college application process.

Yargh.

Sunday, September 07, 2003

I had the best Saturday night. I loved it. I want to take it home and croon ballads to it.

I mentioned in my last entry that I had a busy Saturday planned -- work, meeting with my language exchange partner, seeing Sister Chunha, and then a jazz club in Daehangno. Everything was cool -- I especially like meeting with my language exchange partner because she and I have similar viewpoints about pretty much everything -- and I got some errands done with Sister Chunha, but I was dead tired by the end of the afternoon, when Chunha had to go back to the convent for prayers.

Around 6 pm, I sat in a Dunkin' Donuts and had a cup of coffee and tried to regain some energy. Thanks to the regenerative powers of caffeine, I headed off to Daehangno, the hip artsy part of Seoul, with a second wind... which was immediately crushed out of me by the immense crowd that squeezed itself into the subway car. There hadn't been a train by for a while. And then we didn't move for several minutes, for lord knows what reason. I do believe I could have drawn up my feet and just hung there, held in place by the bodies around me.

In any case, I finally got to my stop and pushed my way out, along with nearly everyone else -- Daehangno is pretty popular -- and apologized to David, who said, "I'm getting used to it." (I was late the last time too.)

We picked a takgalbi place for dinner, but it wasn't as good as the one in Chuncheon. David told me about being interviewed for a newspaper the day before, in an article about families and Chusok (the Korean Thanksgiving, which is on Sept. 11 this year). The reporter had gathered a bunch of Korean adoptees and asked them If they had found their birth mothers, what they thought of Korea, what they were doing for Chusok. David answered: "no," "it's good but has some problems," and "nothing."

I asked him how the reporter had found him, and he said through the UN Korean Adoptees organization.

After dinner, we wandered around for a while, talking about watching "Lassie" and "Little House on the Prairie" as kids. David had been to a small jazz club with a friend before, but he couldn't remember where it was, so we tramped around Daehangno for some time. Finally, we encountered a jazz club and decided, "what the hell, let's just go here," and descended into the place, whereupon David said, "Hey! This is the place I went to before! We found it!"

At around this point, the evening became the sort of Saturday night I want to marry someday. We sat down at a table in the back, which meant, in that tiny place, that we were a whole five feet away from the stage, and ordered beer. The waiter plunked a dish of shrimp crackers in front of us (the de facto Korean bar snack), and we started listening. After a few minutes, I knew. I knew the way you know when you know. I knew that this was the sort of Saturday night you don't blow off to hang out with your friends. This was the kind of Saturday night you take home to your parents and show off proudly to your friends.

Okay, enough with the cheesy metaphors. Sorry. What I mean to say is that we started listening to the pianist and the bass player, who looked like college kids and were dressed like college kids and probably were college kids, and then a girl wearing a white cardigan and khaki pants went up and sang "Koko" and "Sir Jones" in perfect English with perfect husky sweetness and then their set was over and we watched Santana on the TV set for a while until the new band set up, and the new band, with the bassist that looked 12 years old, the hipster electric guitar player with the earring and the cool square glasses, the pianist wearing a red polo shirt and khaki skirt, and the drummer with her long hair pinned back -- the new band was fantastic. The first band was fantastic. And at around 10:30 or so, we were the only people in the bar, getting a private concert of 1950s-style straight ahead jazz -- classic Miles Davis, John Coltrane -- with no atonal, acid, cross-over or otherwise experimental stuff.

I used to play the saxophone in high school, and Saturday night brought it all back. I thought I recognized a Real Book on the piano, and I thought of my own E flat Real Book, with all the jazz standards transcribed into my instrument's key. Names floated up from my memory that I hadn't thought of for years -- not just Miles and Trane and Astrud and Ella, but people I hadn't even had a chance to listen to much, just seen over and over in the jazz aisles at Virgin Records -- Pat Metheny, Lester Young, Maynard Ferguson. I remembered meeting Billy Higgins at a jazz performance club in L.A. with Nina and shyly and awkwardly talking with a bass player that night, a big fat black man who said, "Hollywood? Hollyweird is more like it," and chuckled at his own joke. Going to an amateur night at a jazz club with Jim, the trumpet player who unexpectedly gave me the Real Book when I graduated, and getting lost in Compton -- two little prep school kids, we were, and felt it -- before arriving there. The irascible Dr. Margolis, who gave me the solo part to "Taxi Driver" in my high school band, smelled of pipe tobacco, and didn't let us play Danny Elfman's "The Simpsons" theme because we were fooling around too much. And David, of course, my old sax teacher, who was both my de facto therapist and object of obsession in those days.

It was like meeting a part of myself again, from a time long enough ago to have acquired the dignity of a sepia-toned photograph and to have softened the harsh edges of high school. It's strange to think that I remet it here, in Seoul, in a little basement club frequented by nearly no one on a Saturday night. (Though when I think about it, the set-up could not have been any more perfect.)

There are bigger jazz clubs in Daehangno which are better attended, but on the whole, Seoul isn't known for its jazz scene. It makes sense that the music the bands played were 1950s standards -- as there aren't that many jazz enthusiasts here in the first place, there would be mighty few receptive to experimental jazz.

I thanked the David I was sitting with for bringing me to the Basic Jazz Club, and proposed that we come back soon and often. He congenially agreed.

Friday, September 05, 2003

Remember a few weeks ago I mentioned that someone I knew was thinking about doing something that I thought was a very big mistake? Well, happily, that person decided against that course of action. To say that tears rolled down my face as I thanked god would not be an exaggeration. With the caveat that I've been kind of tired lately (and therefore not quite as stable emotionally), I actually did shed a few tears as I waited for my train, and I actually did think, "Oh God, if you exist and if you had anything to do with helping this person avoid making a mistake -- THANK YOU."

I was supposed to go to taekwondo today but I missed the all important 7:08 pm connection, and so I skipped the lesson today (by the time I would have arrived, the class would have been half over). I was also supposed to meet up with Vivian, Marc and Yugi for a drink, but Vivian's computer got stolen so the gathering was called off. (Stolen from her room while she brushed her teeth! Clearly the work of one of her housemates, poor girl. She's thinking about moving in with her fiance now.)

With time lying heavy on my hands, I decided to go to Jamsil station, which is where Lotte World is located. Lotte World is, well, one of those Asian phenomenons. At this one location, there is a Lotte Hotel, Lotte Department Store, and Lotte amusement park, which includes a swimming pool, bowling alley and ice rink. Basically, you could live there and never use a non-Lotte product. That's a lotta Lotte. BWAH HAH HAH! Er, sorry.

There's also a large underground mall (it all comes down to space -- not enough in Seoul, so everyone digs down), which I walked around a few times, dithering about seeing a movie or not. Pirates of the Caribbean just came out here and now that I think of it, it would have been appropriate to see a Disney theme ride-inspired movie in one of the Disney World-like locations of Korea.

I didn't end up seeing the movie (alas, I'll have to wait to see an eye-lined Johnny Depp another day), but I did spend some quality time watching the ice rink. There were two junior high or high school girls (instantly recognizable by their uniforms) on the ice, but other than that, everyone else seemed to be taking lessons. Little girls and a few adult women were ice dancing in the middle of the rink, but vastly more girls, boys and men were speed skating.

They were serious about it too -- even the beginners were dressed in the skintight, Star Trek: The Next Generation uniform-type bodysuits and helmets. Some of the kids could not have been more than 8 or so, hunched over, their spindly kid legs, ending in long-bladed skates, crossing over each other in that measured, balletic style. I saw a minor wipeout that took out three other kids, and it looked like the original stumbler got a talking to from a coach, but the other kids, after sliding a dozen feet on their asses, got up and resumed skating.

There seemed to be several teams -- one was stylished decked out in silver bodysuits with pink accents; another in cobalt blue with black markings. I don't know if they were in training or what, but watching them skate was a very unexpected way to spend an evening.

Tomorrow I've got a full day: work in the morning, meeting my language exchange partner, meeting Sister Chunha at 3 pm to see a museum, then going to hear jazz in Daehangno with the Korean Dane I met two weeks ago. (I just love saying Korean Dane. But I love saying Korean Danish even more. C'mon, you know you think it's funny too.) I'm looking forward to all, but I am a little ambivalent about seeing Sister Chunha, because she is resignedly pessimistic about being in Korea. She being a nun and all, we don't have that many topics to talk about, and it's tiring to be with someone who's not happy about their situation but resigned to it being an ordeal.

To be fair, her situation does kind of suck -- she's from China, and originally wanted to go to the U.S., but because of visa difficulties, she ended up here, in order to study theology. After a 15 months of studying Korean, her superior told her that she had to start theology school, even though her Korean skills aren't nearly up to the level she needs to understand the lectures.

That's incredibly frustrating. I mean, what's the point? It's like the Canadian army guy I talked with last term -- his Korean was no better than mine, but his superiors were sending him to a Korean military graduate school anyway. He was just a political tool, as he himself told me; other guys who'd been sent said that on a good day, they understood 30 percent of the lectures and on a bad day, they understood nothing. It's just that the Korean army and the Canadian army have an exchange program, so the Canadians have to go through the motions. The guy I talked to had been studying Russian before he got pulled out to study Korean. How wasteful is that? Similarly, Sister Chunha's convent in China has a relationship with a convent here, and her studying Korean and learning theology here is a way to maintain good relations between these convents. I mean, I've heard that that Korea's theology schools are well-regarded (in at least the Catholic world), but what's the point of having someone go to school and not understand half of the lessons?

Okay, I think I just talked myself into feeling more sympathetic for her.

Thursday, September 04, 2003

Jumpy entry

Did I mention that I went up two belts in taekwondo last week? This isn't as big an achievement as it sounds, because the director routinely lets people skip belts if they seem to be earnestly working at the art. There are nine belts, the last being black, and now I'm an orange belt, the third one up.

In order to rise to the next belt, you have to learn a series of movements, like a routine. By skipping the yellow belt, I have to learn routine 2 and 3 quickly, which I'm not sure is such a great idea, since, as the Ringleted One told me, it takes about 3,500 repetitions to commit something to muscle memory. I learned routine 2 on Tuesday and learned most of routine 3 tonight, and I'm already getting things confused.

It's still gratifying to tie on my orange belt, though.
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People at work are sad to see me go. Or at least, that's what they say to my face. But I had to believe one woman who came to my desk to day with a woebegone expression on her face and asked me, seriously, if the work she had given me had made me want to leave.

"Of course not!" I reassured her. I told her that we should keep in touch, but in an oddly honest response, she said, "That's what people always say, but that's never the case. People just don't."

I told her that we shouldn't think that way, and that we should try, in any case. But you know, it is often true. It's a happy day when someone I like very much and want to keep in touch with also likes me and wants to keep in touch AND is a good and frequent emailer.
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I picked up my bridesmaid outfit from Tex today, and it looks pretty good. The top is not quite as smooth as a professional might have made it, but overall, the effect is quite nice. Pretty in pink!
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Thanks to BC, who wrote to tell me that "farrier" is the word I was looking for yesterday. She once again lives up to her immortal words: "I have more reference books than God."

Wednesday, September 03, 2003

Chuncheon Weekend (2nd half)

I forgot to mention a couple details in Tuesday's description of our Chuncheon weekend. I actually jotted these details down so as not to forget them -- a good thing!

First, when we ate the takgalbi (chicken BBQ), we wore pink aprons to protect our clothes from possible splatterings of grease. The aprons were pink, with white embroidered flowers. They also had a recipe for cream cheese cake on the front. I think it was a real recipe, too.

Second, on Sunday when we walked over to the river, we passed an honest-to-god blacksmith's shop. (For some reason I thought "ferrier" was the name for someone who works with iron -- ferrous, ferrier -- but a ferrier is a ferryman, according to dictionary.com. So much for my attempt to be all Latin-y.) Iron implements on the table in front of the window, hammer on the ground, oven, pincers -- the whole deal.

We also passed a small side street where, when I glanced that way, I saw an old woman sweeping the ground with the ubiquitous green plastic straw broom that is sold everywhere in Korea. Two children were playing around her, dressed in pinks, reds, and yellows.

As we continued down the street, we walked past old women sitting in chairs by big bags of red peppers, a pile of Napa cabbages, and two men shoving more cabbages around the back of a truck.

Just stuff I never saw in America.

So, I left you all at the river, marveling at the beauty of the scene. Maiko and I walked down the bike path, talking about work and other sundries. I started noticing the enormous webs and the scary black and yellow spiders that seemed to occupy every tree, bush and wire we passed. I'm talking webs between items that were four feet apart. And spiders that looked bigger than my palm. After the seventh or eighth time I said, "Hey, look at that huge thing!" Maiko told me that in Japan seeing a spider in the morning was good luck. I told her that we'd have oodles of luck, as we'd seen about 100 that morning.

As we continued down the path, we saw fishermen, each with about four or five poles, sitting with their backs to us, some under brightly colored umbrellas. White herons (or perhaps egrets?) flew over the water, their long spindly legs trailing behind them.

When we came to the end of the path, we saw a cafe called "Ethiopia," and damned if it didn't offer Ethiopian food and coffee. A few minutes later, on a map at the rest stop, I noted, with some amusement, that we were close to a "Monument for Ethicpian [sic] Roops [sic] Rerticipation [sic] in the Korea War." From Maiko's and my trip to the War Memorial several weeks ago, I recalled that Ethiopia had sent a few thousand troops to fight in the Korean War, a fact that startled me then also.

We found another tourist center across the street from the rest stop, and stopped in to enquire about a book Maiko wanted. The woman there didn't have it, but she did urge us to visit the Soyang Dam that day, as the authorities had opened it to let some of the recent rainfall out. She said the last time they had done so was several years ago, and that it was only to be open until 5, so to be sure to go.

We hadn't planned on going to the dam, even though it and the lake it created in 1973 are big attractions in Chuncheon, because it seemed too far, and we wanted to see an island on the other side of town. But the woman's enthusiasm was catching, and we decided to go. The only hitch was that we had written a note to the hotel ajuma saying that we'd be back at 11 for checkout. We relayed this to the tourist center employee, and she told us not to worry, that hotels like ours didn't have a regular checkout time, and that we'd be fine.

Really? we asked. We won't have to pay again?

Really, she said. Don't worry about it.

Since we'd left my phone number on the note to the hotel ajuma, we decided to go for it, and, after a breakfast of makgooksu (buckwheat noodles) nearby, caught a bus to the dam. As bumpy as the ride was, Maiko amazingly fell asleep, and I had to rouse her when we drove past a fine view of the water gushing out of the dam, falling hundreds of feet down and creating a hazy plume at the bottom. Soyang Dam, when it was built in 1973, was the biggest rock-filled dam in Asia. It's still the biggest in Korea, and Soyang Lake is a popular water recreation area. Boat tours around the "inland sea" are popular, and we ended up taking a short one to see Cheongpyeongsa Temple, dating back about a thousand years.

The boat dropped us off and we hiked up about 40 minutes to the temple. Originally built during the Goryeo Dynasty, it had been destroyed and rebuilt a number of times, but the Korean War really demolished most of it. It is currently under reconstruction, and we saw workmen carefully painting the bright designs on the eaves while a family bowed before the statue of Buddha inside.

There were two smaller structures behind the main hall, and when I went up to inspect them, I saw that plants were growing on the main structure's roof. Caught by the sight of that greenery, I looked above the roof. The dense green of the mountains in the background contrasted beautifully with the graceful line of the gray roof tiles. It was pretty amazing.

But what was more amazing still was the woman I spotted on the temple grounds. She had long, straight black hair down to her waist. She wore a pair of short jean shorts. And she sported a pair of gold three-inch mules. Remember that we had to hike 40 minutes up the mountain to see the temple.

After admiring the temple, we were subjected to a short history lesson about it and a lecture on the value of historical objects in Korea by an overzealous tourist information guide who didn't realize we weren't Korean until she made us sign her guestbook.

Heading back into town from the dam, I had the fortune of sitting in a seat in front of which three small boys were busily screaming, swinging from the bus safety handholds, hitting each other, getting yelled at by their mother, and lurching into me whenever the bus moved abruptly. It was then that I realized hell is right here on earth. And I cursed the spiders that morning for not living up to the promise of good luck. (Although I guess they were Korean spiders, not Japanese, so maybe they didn't know.)

Back at the hotel, the (slightly) bad luck held, as the hotel ajuma told us, "Checkout was at 12. You'll have to pay me another 10,000 won." We objected that we didn't know, and she started to raise her voice: "It says right here on the sheet posted next to my seat! Look, I'll come out and read it to you. 'Checkout is at 12.'" At this point, I might have just given up and handed over the money, but Maiko said in her gentle voice, "But we asked a tourist information center, and the woman there said that it didn't matter what time we checked out."

At this comment, the ajuma started going off. "I've been to Australia and Canada, and you can't tell me that in foreign countries the hotels don't have checkout times! In Japan and in America, it's the same thing! You'd have to pay there, so why do you think Korea is any different? You young people -- it's not the money, it's that you young people need to realize that this is the way the world works!"

At which I started getting annoyed, and argued back, "But we didn't know! This is the first time we've stayed in a hotel in Korea! And besides, we asked someone at a tourist information center, and she told us that it didn't matter!"

The ajuma changed her tactic: "If you had told me in the morning, you could have left your bags with me and you wouldn't have to pay! But you left your bags in your room, and if I'd moved them, you'd have complained! What if you'd come back later than this? The cleaning crew might not be here anymore and we couldn't use that room tonight!"

Maiko and I both burst in, "But you weren't there when we left! And you didn't tell us the checkout time when we arrived here yesterday!" I continued: "That's why we left my phone number!"

She scoffed with the Korean equivalent of "Whatever!" and continued, "You wrote in your note that you'd be checking out at 11! You didn't get here until now!"

I repeated, indignantly, "Look, we told you that we asked someone in the tourist industry, and she said it didn't matter! You weren't here when we left, otherwise we would have asked you! And we left the phone number!"

After several more minutes of this (basically repeating ourselves), she finally said, "You young people -- ! Just get your stuff, then! Get your stuff!"

I stormed up the stairs, Maiko behind me. The cleaning woman followed us, and when we collected our things, I apologized to her, "If our stuff made your cleaning job difficult, I'm sorry."

"No, no, it's fine, just go ahead now," she said, and descend we did, to receive another earful about young people, universal checkout times, and notes promising checkout at 11. For some reason, Maiko put one of her bags on the counter, and was listening to this, while I burned with renewed annoyance and started repeating our arguments again. At last, I huffed, "Next time, we'll know, okay? Good bye," grabbed Maiko's bag, and stomped out of the hotel.

Outside, my temper almost immediately vanished, and I wasn't sure even to myself if I'd been showing more bite than I felt, just to annoy the ajuma. When Maiko joined me a few seconds later, we looked at each other and laughed. We'd won. We'd avoided the fee and we'd won an argument against a Korean ajuma. Amazing!

We caught a cab to the train station, to catch the train to Namiseom Island. In the cab, I asked the driver if there was a universal checkout time in Korean hotels. "Twelve o'clock," he replied promptly. Maiko and I looked at each other and laughed again. I explained the situation, and he said, with a slight grin, "Did you get into a fight with the ajuma?" I affirmed, and he chuckled.

After half an hour, we boarded the train, and around 6 pm, we arrived at the station closest to Namiseom Island, where a significant romantic scene of a famous TV drama had been filmed. From the station, we caught another cab to the ferry, and then took the boat to the island, where I was stunned to see an ostrich walking around and munching grass. I pointed it out to Maiko, and then saw another one of the flightless birds in the distance.

We found the stretch of forest road that had been filmed, and saw a statue of a deer by the side, which I thought was cheesy -- until the statue moved. And then another. And then another. Not to mention the ducks and rabbits also calmly lounging about.

As it was getting dark, we quickly took some cheesy shots of ourselves looking wistfully into the distance (you know, to get that romantic feel), and headed back to the ferry, which we took back to the mainland only to find that there were no taxis. Yikes! I noticed two people standing where the taxis would line up, and asked if where they were going. They said the station, and then after that, back to Seoul; they'd come to Namiseom for the weekend. Goofily, we took pictures of each other, and then somehow the couple snagged a ride with a man who was waiting to take his wife and another employee back to town. So we ended up hitching a ride in the van to the bus station, where the Seoul couple went with us to check that there was a bus headed to Seoul, and then, when it was confirmed, said goodbye to us and departed for the train station (close by).

Maiko and I hadn't eaten since 11 in the morning, so we decided to have a quick dinner at the bus station. The station restaurant looked closed, but the restaurant ajuma said, "Oh, come on in, I'll make you something." We ordered soft tofu stew, and dug in with relish. The ajuma commented on our ability to eat spicy food, "My daughter-in-law is Russian, and she still can't eat spicy food." How does she live in Korea, then, I wondered out loud, and she laughed.

But the last laugh was yet to come, as we chowed down and the ajuma watched a drama on TV and the convenience store ajuma dropped by to chat. I noticed the marinated chili peppers, and remembering that I'd eaten this side dish before, I munched on a pepper enthusiastically. No problem. The second pepper, however, was a problem. At first I thought the burning would pass in a few seconds. But after I downed two glasses of water and the beads of sweat started rolling down my nose, I realized I was in pain. PAIN.

Maiko asked what was wrong, and I said I'd eaten a really hot pepper. She grabbed some tissue and recommended wiping my tongue, so I did. No avail.

I downed another glass of water. The burning continued.

I tried eating a spoon of rice. That really hurt.

Finally, I noticed a carton of milk on the ajuma's desk, and asked, "Uh, ajuma? Do you have some milk?"

She looked over and said the equivalent of "Uh, yeeahh." Like, it's only right there in your line of vision.

"Could I have a glass please?"

She shrugged and opened the carton. I downed a glass, explaining the situation. She laughed, but not in a mean way, and filled up my glass again. The convenience store ajuma said, "Oh, I never eat that, you never know which ones are the hot ones. You have to be careful."

I managed to finish my rice, swallowing it down with mouthfuls of milk (and to think I used to shudder at the thought of mixing rice and dairy!), but I couldn't finish my spicy tofu stew, and gave it to Maiko. You know, for a skinny Japanese girl, she can sure put it away. When we got up to pay, I offered to round up the 4,000 won for my meal to 5,000 won, for the milk, but the ajuma wouldn't hear of it. "No, no, you can't do that, here's your change. You'd better go wait for the bus now."

Maiko and I slept fitfully on the rattling ride home, but at least we got seats (two out of the last three seats available, actually). So you know, the spider luck may have carried us through, in the end.

Monday, September 01, 2003

I wore jeans tonight for the first time in months, and they felt soooo good. I felt energized just wearing them. Although the foliage is still lushly green in the city, fall is definitely just around the corner. My dad said there's a saying in Korean about fall: "High sky horse fat." I suspect it's Chinese in origin, it has the nice four-word ring that many Chinese phrases do; in any case, the idea is that in the fall, the sky looks opened up, wider and higher than in the muggy, stinkin' summer. Horses that hadn't been able to eat much during the scummy, humid summer suddenly start chowing down, their appetites stimulated by the crisp breezes. Today felt fall-ish, all of a sudden. What's good for the horse is good for the rider, right?

This weekend was great. I mentioned on Friday that my plans for going out of town with Maiko and my colleague Soonji had fallen through, but that was mainly because I'd been depending on Soonji to buy the train tickets, and she'd gotten sick, so she wasn't up for going. Shortly after I wrote the last entry, though, I decided that: 1. I really wanted and needed to get out of town; and 2. I should take a little responsibility upon myself and just go, dammit, go. I looked up some bus schedules and talked to Maiko, who was so sure that we'd be able to find a bus and a hostel that I took heart.

After work on Saturday morning, then, I met up with Maiko at the East Seoul bus station and we bought the tickets and got on the bus. Except for a trip out to my grandmother's, I hadn't been out of the city for six months, so I was beyond thrilled. Traveling makes me so happy. Even the drizzle, which turned into steady rain the moment we pulled out of the station, couldn't bring me down.

We went two hours east to a town called Chuncheon, famed for its takgalbi (chicken barbecue) and makgooksu (cold buckwheat noodles), beautiful lakes, annual mime festival and a separate annual puppet festival. (We missed the last two by a few weeks.)

Upon arriving in Chuncheon, we set out to look for the tourist information center. Unsure of its location, we asked a guy on the street if he knew where it was. Since he was walking our way, we chatted briefly and when we parted, he gave us his card and told us to call him if we wanted him to show us where a good takgalbi place was. Talk about nice!

At the tourist center, which was empty except for us and the employees, we gave ourselves over to a nice employee and she totally made out a schedule for us for the next day and a half. Because a famous TV drama was shot in Chuncheon, the tourism industry pushes the sites they used in the show. Since I'd never seen the drama, I wasn't very impressed, but Maiko got psyched.

As the tourist center woman suggested, we had dinner in Myongdong, a friendly little shopping area, on a street called Takgalbi Alley -- so named because there are about 30 little restaurants that all sell takgalbi. As you walk past, in true Korean fashion, the restaurant ajumas (older women) call out, "Come on in here, it's delicious, we'll feed you well, come and try ours out."

As it was raining, Maiko and I lingered over the barbecued chicken, wonderfully and fearfully spiced and fried with cabbage, sweet potato, rice cakes, spinach and other various things. Afterwards, we headed into the large underground shopping mall and made our way back to the hotel we'd found before dinner, on the way buying a sweet pair of pants each for about $7.

The hotel was nothing special but it was clean and dry, and we just couldn't make ourselves go out in the rain again, so we planned our next day and watched a bit of TV and speculated whether the hotel was a "love hotel" or not. The presence of the VCR, bottles of hair gel, lotion, p and hair spray, plus shampoo and conditioner called "Eros" seemed somewhat suspicious. Later I found out that many of these hotels conduct a brisk "love hotel" business, and often ask couples checking if they plan to stay the night. With young people often living with their parents until they get married, no wonder!

Maiko took the bed and I took the floor, and we fell asleep to the occasion shimmer of the disco ball from the club across the street.

We woke on Sunday and managed to get out the door by 8:30 am (I can't do this during the week, so I don't know what got into me). As the hotel ajuma wasn't there, and we didn't know what time checkout was, we left a note saying that we'd be back at 11 and that we'd check out then. (Remember this, it becomes relevant later.)

We first went to see a seven-story stone pagoda dating back about a thousand years to the Silla dynasty. Then, as the tourist center had recommended, we walked over to the river, which, blockaded by dams, looked more like a lake. Wow. Even in the slightly drizzly morning, it was stunning. Mountains in the background, clear shimmering water... I looked out on the scene and thought, "I cannot believe I didn't make it out of Seoul for six months. Korea is fucking BEAUTIFUL."

Tomorrow (or today, I guess, as it's after midnight): the biggest dam in Korea, women hiking in three-inch spike heels, a throwdown with a Korean ajuma (a feat, I tell ya!), ostriches running free, more really nice people, and a stunningly painful green chili pepper.